neopronouns and ... xenopronouns ?

May. 1st, 2026 10:47 am
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come across something that lay down distinction between neopronouns and xenopronouns ... try to look into this , but find either interchangeable use , or distinguish as effectively " human and nonhuman " pronouns . that is to say , humans make and use neopronouns , but xenopronouns represent something nonhuman , something humans just can not understand and basically must be alterhuman . suppose that come into line with term of xenogender , but then even feel kind of similar way about that , which is : wow there is no way to guarantee that someone have " correct " identity to use words , especially as broad as alterhumanity .

like personally of mindset that probably only intersex people should use shi/hir pronouns , which gain recognition from perfectly dualsex stereotypes that still to this day hurt intersex people - more in line with reclamation of slur than just fun pronoun choice . even then there is no way to prove correct usage beyond just whether person say perisex or intersex , which could be lie anyway . if someone is so set as to ignore origins and intersex frustrations , then personally think there is nothing more productive than to just ignore that person and part ways . 

and some people want to analyse " xenopronoun " users for enough alterhumanity to count ...? honestly do not think that is good distinction to start with - humans can recognise and want to emulate nonhuman qualities , or cultural interpretations of such , and do pretty frequently ! sweet pea is flower , but also petname couples may use . pumpkin , honey , sugarplum , cupcake - all technically nonhuman things that people may associate with each other out of love .

when things like that can be true , just find silly to think that someone must be alterhuman to understand concept of " cupcake-like gender " - gender that is sweet , gender that may associate with large poufs and skirts , gender that may associate with bright , flavourful colours . that frame of reference might be different than someone who is cupcake kin in ways that intertwine with gender , but not wrong either in concept or morally . likewise , can therefore understand pronouns that might line up with this idea of cupcake gender - pronouns that look or sound like little crunchy sprinkles on top , that sound fluffy and airy like cake , or outright simplest idea , pronouns that simply adapt noun of cupcake .

like , that was distinction kossai remember 10 years ago - nounself pronouns exist as part of broader neopronoun category , and with adoption of emojiself pronouns , those do too .

and of course need to be on usual freedom , abolition-of-binary stuff here , but like . what exactly make male and female human genders anyway ? what encapsulate idea of " human gender " ? only way can think to express would be " genders commonly accepted among human societies " but even that is variable , and even most-accepted binary genders exist with different standards and expectations around world . just can not think of how this would be useful classification , because come back around to " humans should exist around binary " - which is utter bullshit !

sometimes people come up with words , and do not really think about what those words may say unspokenly . hard to express this sometimes as well , because even if clear as possible , people can not help ( from past experience ) but to take as attack against rights . but genuinely fully in favour of idea that gender can be anything , and of bodily autonomy for anyone to make desired changes . what criticise is not existence of genders outside " human spectrum " , rather criticise idea that there is provable human spectrum of genders at all , and that words must exist to divide these categories . this is just another useless binary . 

later-day edit : someone finally explain distinction , which is that xenopronouns exist as mostly theoretical idea of pronouns that literally can not be expressed via human languages , such as pronouns that originate from alien languages of light wavelengths , or sounds that humans physically can not reproduce . while that clear up confusion of distinction , still take issue with fact that apparently this really is meant to be exclusive to alterhumans ! if orthohuman take pride and comfort in this idea as well , there is no reason why should not - this is not exclusive cultural identity or reclamation of insult and slur . 

obsidian vault dilemma

Apr. 30th, 2026 02:27 pm
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really love obsidian . maybe too much ? have so many different vaults , sometimes frustrate when need to switch between because list is long , and therefore do not touch some of these much if at all - but also can not really think of good ways to consolidate too much . 

have , for some examples :
  • media log and commentary vault
  • specifically tabletop and journal gameplay vault
  • specifically separate mushroom musume and elder scrolls gameplay vaults
  • inventory of real-life objects
  • inventory of patterns , materials , and project log
  • inventory of food preferences and recipes
  • dream journal vault
  • random " will never use these but might sometimes want to look at these " mogai labels vault
  • hypothetical crisis plan vault , currently barely set up
and that is still not everything . obviously have some areas of overlap that could feasibly mush some of these together , but then not sure how to configure templates or degrees of separation . 

know some of this currently is just hanal tendency - like how some people get angry when hungry , kossai just get really anal about things - but know some of this is legitimate concern that just get worse recently . 

little ramble

Apr. 30th, 2026 11:33 am
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no matter what anyone might want to ask or say , will always be physically faerie , this is just truth of selves . body is also undeniably mixed in sex characteristics . sometimes feel intersex identity is in sort of weird spot , as faeries would not necessarily categorise sex , or have standards of what is perisex and intersex , and therefore would like to not label as well .

even so , of course among humans , kossai exist in societies that do have these categories and standards - and sometimes so misinformed or blatantly cruel that there is nothing to do but to speak up and reveal . think everyone would benefit if none of these categories and standards could exist - if could speak plainly about possibilities of how bodies may look and act beyond two strict boxes , if everyone could access choices of hormones and surgeries without hurdles , and if no one was shaved down and torn apart to fit those boxes . maybe words like transgender and intersex would no longer be necessary beyond analysis of history . maybe that would be worth freedom . 

anyway , people say fucking weird and invasive shit even before publicly out as intersex , so not as if hide protect in any way . would like to be in world where category is not necessary , but people will demand one , so intersex is answer . want to get nitty gritty , further into arbitrary binaries ? too bad , make some shit up ! would never want to hear truth anyway . 

LB is tabling at Hampshire Pride!

Apr. 29th, 2026 09:15 pm
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This Saturday, May 2, we'll be tabling at Hampshire Pride in the Armory Street parking lot behind Thornes Marketplace, in Northampton MA! We'll be at the white booth, #29, and we're sharing the space with Bee Leake!

We'll be loaded up with all sorts of goodies. Hope to see you there! We also will be offline once we leave tomorrow morning, so if you need to reach us, call, text, or wait.

twoweeker wednesday

Apr. 29th, 2026 12:53 pm
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cleaned out the sticky keys on my keyboard...yay

family dog had to be put down last monday </3 hence delayed poste

listening
night at the opera (emei), tricot, haitus kaiyote, the smiths - did not realize that the smiths made those songs
a lot of kino...i like the album with the star on the cover. i need to learn how to read cyrillic lol - Стук
no doubt album (tragic kingdom), 'don't speak' is definitely the strongest track which i don't think is a controversial opinion
smattering of joy division, siouxsie and the banshees, fields of the nephilim
good amount of oingo boingo and david bowie
Read more... )

sky cotl ~ oh no

Apr. 28th, 2026 11:41 pm
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wiki currently seem to suggest that rhythm bird plush will cost hearts , not candles . still not able to heart trade with anyone , but absolutely need this plush !!! remembrance crab also cost hearts , but carnival rhythm bird is so much more important right now ... ugh , and get remembrance manta after finally save up 17 because was under impression that would be safe ! >3<

rhythm bird plush now !

journalkeepery !

Apr. 28th, 2026 07:04 pm
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lots of tag changes in this last day , not sure how many will stay . personally most important thing was to make sure all of everyday posts could be at top , so everyday category is now simply assort category . still fair number of things that probably would like to change , and again , might move some things to website . still , nice to have this progress !

video games ~ ice cube analogy

Apr. 27th, 2026 08:27 pm
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manage to find this post again ! ... through reddit , as tumblr continue to be useless in find tumblr posts .

screenshot of tumblr post

transcript for accessibility - image is direct upload to this journal so hopefully will not break , this just feel too lengthy for alt text .

original post by bidoof
what farming games in mmorpgs has taught me: i used to think using ice trays to make ice cubes was free but after thinking about it i have to pay the electric bill to power the freezer so every moment that i'm not freezing new trays of ice cubes is a moment that i'm underutilizing the freezer and increasing the cost of ice cubes. i have to constantly swap out ice trays for new ice cubes on an hourly rotation on a 24 hour basis or else i won't produce the maximum amount of ice cubes possible and will underutilize the full potential of my electric bill. i need to stop using all other appliances and utilities in my home to make more ice cubes

addition by saccharine-tar of screenshotted tags without credit
i think about this post so much. whenever a gacha game makes me feel pressured to waste time on a bullshit event i think: am i enjoying this or am i making ice cubes? and then i quit the event lmao

end of transcript . and definitely agree with that set of tags there ! not really into any gacha-based games anymore , set aside occasionally pop out some songs in project sekai , but this is such good way to think about tasks in games , particularly ones that do have microtransactions , whether or not gacha . 

sometimes these tasks can be genuinely fun if slow down , as personally find with candle runs in sky cotl - very rarely do full candle run , and limit that to when truly save up for something specific , but do love to hop around world , maybe goof around with some people or come across newbies to help . other times these tasks just not fun at all , like fight and grind hard to stay on some sort of leaderboard - might push so hard as to self-neglect and still end up with nothing to show because someone else will always push harder , if not just hack and cheat to top ! 

ice cubes . fantastic analogy . 

Our Work On Sale in Seattle!

Apr. 27th, 2026 09:30 pm
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Our one-pagers and the Riso edition of Coming In or Staying Out is now on the shelves with the Paper Pushers Print Shop in Seattle, Washington! It's a six-month pop-up at 1200 5th Avenue, the old IBM building.

So if you're in the Pacific Northwest and want to skip the shipping, go check them out! Tell 'em LB sent you!
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as main currency of sky , candles pretty important to gather , of course - but personally never really like hardcore candle runs . 

this kind of go back to ice cube idea , wherever that post might be . this intentionally silly analogy that in order to not waste electricity bill , one must freeze ice cubes at every moment , in fact potentially should even wake up in night just to ensure maximum production of ice cubes . monotonous , boring , and not useful to actual everyday life - who would ever need that many ice cubes ? love that analogy .

so , hardcore candle run is one of those ice cube activities . people who just zip through and light every candle , burn every bit of darkness , never slow down and never stop , because time must be maximised , and chevrons must be entirely fulfilled ... ugh , hate that shit . 

this is not to say that kossai never do candle runs . actually quite enjoy candle runs , under slower circumstances . really fun to go through these areas , because genuinely beautiful ! definitely miss some spots sometimes , definitely also get distracted sometimes , but find that to be feature , not problem - this is game , after all , world that player is meant to explore and enjoy .

sure , pretty much never max out chevrons , but like ... whatever ? unless specifically save up for something time limited , just prefer not to put in that " full " amount of effort . done these 200 candle grinds before , and would prefer to keep those rare . will run around realms to search for candles and darkness plants , will sometimes drop in on AFK areas or wax events like grandma , but no real pressure . could have so many more candles if just push , but that would just be ice cubes . 
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feel like should have post of this already , but do not seem to ! need to remedy that .

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so the last time I posted here was at the beginning of the month, hm. well! hello, I still exist!

1.
I've been at a different work site for 2.5wks, which was a lovely break. Chill worksite, small job; just me and one journeyman who I enjoy working with. He was like "this is one of the best jobs I've ever worked" about it, which is a wild contrast to how the big job we'd both been working (and are returning to tomorrow) is one of the worst.

The little job isn't fully done, but we can't do anything else until they get all the remaining parts in. The hope is that when that happens (in a month, maybe...? nobody had estimates.) they'll call us back to finish it, since we know what's going on and what the plan was. This is especially pertinent because we were not given particularly detailed plans, and then proceeded to change a lot of it (memorably: one unit we were supposed to install couldn't be installed where they wanted it because of service requirements, so it had to be flipped and therefore everything coming from it had to be re-routed to accommodate that).

also, we just want to go back, since it was a nice job.

Back to the big job tomorrow, and...

well, not looking forward to it. In theory it'll wrap at some point this summer. idk when. But it's a job site where everyone always seems stressed and that trickles down and makes it so much harder than it needs to be.

(also, like, having lunch at 10:30am as the only break in the day is. not ideal? yes we get out at 2:30 but man the clock usually feels so slow between 11am-2pm...)


2.
I drew a cover for On the Lord's Estate the other week!
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Left to right: Mal, El, and Benny.


I've known more or less what I wanted to draw for bk2 since... mm, the halfway mark of writing it, maybe? Important to have all three of them together, important to show Mal happy, important to place it in the conservatory. I'm very happy with how it came out—especially Mal. <3 Mal turned out just as I was hoping as far as expression/vibe goes.

This also means that [personal profile] hafnia and I have started posting bk3! Of the Lord's Family is the happy ending. <3 featuring healthy communication, family feelings (if the title wasn't a giveaway), and everyone settling into their lives. It'll be the end of this trilogy, and then it'll be time for various stories about the kids.

(which means more thinking about what I want to do with Rhei, and also continuing to noodle about Tolly... many ideas, only so much time and energy, but also no rush beyond my own internal "BUT I WANNA HAVE THIS DONE SOONER" feelings. xD)


3.
I've been keeping up with the new Star Wars cartoon Maul: Shadow Lord, and it is such a funny example of Disney Star Wars Overconnected Bullshit in a few very specific ways.

a. No characters are really introduced. You are expected to simply already know who they are. Even as someone who has watched pretty much all the Star Wars cartoons, I was not aware of who some characters were because some of them were introduced in comics about Maul. (Additionally: the prequel comic series for this show has 2/5 issues out as of right now, as the show airs. I think this is hilarious.) HOWEVER.

b. Even the characters who were not previously introduced are given particularly in-depth introductions. This is mostly confusing because I expected them to be introduced somewhere, since it took until episode three for two major characters to have their names spoken on-screen. Their names have been known via promo material? But didn't show up in the show? This is fine if it's intentional but it's so weird when it's the same vibes as characters who were introduced in comics.

c. I mean this isn't a Disney problem specifically but it sure is very Star Wars: There is only one (1) prominent female character, one (1) prominent secondary female character, and one (1) tertiary female character allowed at a time. It was honestly really funny when the tertiary character got Sent Away and then a new tertiary female character showed up a couple scenes later?

anyway I like it well enough when it's not Fight Scenes, and sort of don't care when it's Fight Scenes, but since it's a show for like tweens I think it's forced to have Fight Scenes in every episode. Which, like, that's fine but I find it more fun to watch Maul attempt to seduce everyone into helping him than I do watching the flashy lights show of a combat sequence involving blasters and/or lightsabers.


4.
It is finally spring. Flowers are blooming, the trees are turning green with new leaves, and the weather is consistently above freezing! These are all good things!


5.
anyway while I'm thinking about it, right, I meant to post this (which I wrote like a month ago at least) and now I have! Mouse! :D

The Question of Crushes, 2.4k, gen, wherein a teenager is interrogated by a like eight year old about if they have a crush on the kid's oldest sibling.

sky cotl ~ silly wish

Apr. 26th, 2026 05:04 pm
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wish these carnival ball items would interact with clouds , so if stand outside nest could just throw into clouds and watch how clouds play !

... also really wish plushies could bounce on clouds , because twice now kossai visit carnival airships , grab plushie from thoughtful director , and then accidentally drop into clouds where never return . even happen in ball pit once ! can not wait until this item is freely available from carnival guide so never have to worry about drop again , can always just summon back in hands ...

3 weeks for dreamwidth

Apr. 25th, 2026 10:10 pm
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did not entirely know this was thing until now - happy birthday dreamwidth !

well ... kind of already post things exclusively here , if sometimes behind access list - maybe behind access more frequently right now , just because life is kind of messy and want to keep some semblance of privacy , but also just find less and less fun to participate in things on tumblr . 

what really feel recently is need to clean up journal tags , but how to do that is real question . what things can move over to website , which ones already move over and need to clean out of here , and which ones can stay here ? which tag groups should be first in list , and how can things shuffle to make that happen ? gah !

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