Married life

[dismallyoriented]

A thing that has occurred to me, and had not done so before I became a married man, was that wedding rings are something that takes getting used to.

Even during the reception dinner, I had to go use the bathroom and then briefly baffled myself as to how to wash my hands around the ring. I find myself constantly removing it because I worry about it getting dirty during dinner prep, or accidentally scratching my wife with the gem when I am cuddling. (And more embarrassingly, accidentally injuring myself on it. Either because I am not used to it there, or just because it is a metal object with sharp gemstones in it.) I think it is also not helped much be being just a Smidge larger than my left hand ring finger, so that it slides or goes cockeyed instead of staying snug and centered. Hilariously, it fits perfectly on the right hand's ring finger, so perhaps all I need to do is work out my left hand until it fits.

I have a silicon ring for work purposes, a much more snugly fitting band that is more unobtrusive and can fit within a glove. We were able to find a matching one that fit my wife, with a bit of stretching. For all that the nice wedding ring looks really cool and is a nice piece of jewelry, I think I would rather have a band instead of a thing with gems inset. Or perhaps I just need to get this ring refit so it doesn't slide around so much.

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[onlyknownothing]

Had the same issue when I first got mine. I literally bought a big pack of silicone rings to wear for the sake of "getting used to having a thing on my hand" (which was a good plan, because I lost so many of them due to taking them off to wash hands that I had to order more). Wanted to make sure I wouldn't lose the real thing, and only wore it on special occasions until I went six months without losing one of the silicone stand-ins.

For the record, since I also had that issue with the ring sizing (lost weight and it stopped fitting correctly) - you can order silicone ring sizers to slide into the space and make them fit more snugly. I bought one pack and am still using them - can't easily resize tungsten and the little silicone pads last a good six months if you take the ring off instead of washing your hands with it on.

Also, word of warning while you're still getting used to it? I went to swat a fly on our drive home from the wedding and literally cracked the windshield. There's a hard metal object on your finger now, keep an eye on fragile things coming into forceful contact. 😑

[dismallyoriented]

We have already learned that limit with regards to Flesh. When we got to the "you may now kiss" section of the wedding, she squeezed my hands really hard because she was So Happy and immediately the prongs holding the gem in dug Straight into my pinkie and I yelped. The injury through overenthusiasm continues unabated lol.

The trouble with getting simple bands is once again the gendering of sizes. The ones that come in my size are deliberately slim and feminine; and the masculine styles tend to top out at 7 when I'm a 5. I ended up getting a thicker slightly ostentatious jeweled band to split the difference. Definitely going to check out those ring sizers though, give them a spin.

[lb_lee]

Rogan: As someone who likes thick plain bands, I feel the pain regarding finding rings. I lucked out; my silver engagement ring came from a craft fair and the guy just hammered it to size in front of me, while my wedding ring (#2--lost the first while homeless, STILL MAD ABOUT IT) came out of a gay antique store. Both my wedding bands were decently thick, with little engravings and no gems, and both came from the 1850s, so maybe it's a style that changed over time? Regardless, it meant I could afford them AND feel good about them, which I appreciated.

Gem rings are brass knuckles for femmes.

[dismallyoriented]

RIP to the OG ring, but glad you were able to find stuff that fit! Yeah, there were some titanium bands in the Kays when we went shopping there, including a really cool looking one that had a wooden band through the middle. Sadly the jewelers told us it was harder to get resized bands for it because they didn't directly manufacture those bands. I do still like my ring, I like the fact that it comes off as a little fruity for a guy, and I did still want something with gems on it. Just. A band would also be nice 😂

But that's okay, genuinely the lil silicon work band I have fits that niche quite well. Those at least are shaped like a lil intertwined band of leaves.